knowing if I was good there would almost assuredly be presents when we returned home). As she opened the very LARGE box sitting next to the tree, her smile quickly became a frown when the components of a treadmill spilled out. That look I remember quite well and no matter how good Dad’s
intentions were, the man had a lot of work getting out of the dog house for months to come.
Is the gift of fitness (gym memberships, personal training, wellness coaching) a good idea? It depends completely on the delivery. For the person buying the gift, the intention to help their significant other, parent or friend improve their health and wellness is noble, indeed. But, if not delivered in the right
fashion, the purchaser is thinking only one thing as they try to force a smile: “So you think I’m fat, huh?”
Way back when, Dad thought he was doing a good thing because he had heard my mother say over and over that she would like a treadmill. I have to give him props because my wife complains all of the time that I don’t listen to her and while he listened to her, the mistake was not vetting out the purchase with mom who clearly was expecting a diamond necklace. Not a treadmill for her bedroom.
But with New Year’s Resolutions, doesn’t it make sense to help your loved ones get ahead of the curve by setting up a fitness membership or buying sessions with a trainer? The answer is yes so long as you have discussed it with them first. I have been the trainer who gets to work with the unhappy client who was “gifted” personal training for Christmas; a “surprise” gift that they did not expect, want or appreciate. 100% of the time, the person receiving the surprise fitness gift did not change their lifestyle, eating or exercise habits.
I know you may want your gift of fitness to be a surprise but if you want it to be well-received and effective, have a simple conversation before plunking down your credit card. Even with people who have been resistant to making changes in their exercise or nutrition, a conversation that shows that
person you really care about them may be the deciding factor between colossal bust or best gift ever!
Have a conversation, show your loved one how much you care and help them develop a strong support system. Then and only then should you plunk down your credit card!